How To Say Welcome, How To Be Appreciated
Chapter 12: To be acknowledged by others,
it takes a special move
Lesson 1: Etiquette is especially important
In life, many people suffer
because they are “not good at communicating”,
do not dare to go to unfamiliar places,
cannot develop the topic of conversation
or keep saying it is wrong,
They admire people who have grace in communication,
people who have the charm to meet
and remember forever.
To be a person who is loved by everyone,
requires a special temperament
and personal charm,
must master simple skills
and definitely not make mistakes.
if you are not a professional photographer,
it is not possible to capture a great light angle.
But as long as you buy a compact camera,
capturing the small details in life is not a problem at all.
Sincere people do not know how to guess the intentions of others by their words
and facial expressions,
there is also a simple way to make others fall in love,
which is to show politeness.
that if a person does not have basic politeness,
it will make the other person feel that
you are not sincere enough,
even causing unnecessary misunderstandings.
politeness is the most noble soul exchange,
it can help you to show your attractiveness in society,
thereby having more friends and happiness.
Psychologists conducted an experiment.
He let two people A and B who are not good at communication skills try to talk
with another stranger,
C, for 10 minutes,
with arbitrary content.
After A meets C,
he says a “hello”
and then begins to talk about things that
he considers interesting in life.
He wants to quickly have a friendship with this person,
but he is not good at communicating,
he will feel nervous in front of strangers,
so in the process of talking,
A keeps his head bowed and says to himself,
regardless of whether the other party responds or not.
C felt that the other party didn’t mean to talk,
nor did he interject,
so the scene became very awkward.
After five minutes,
A felt there was nothing more to say,
so he stood up to say goodbye.
After B meets C,
look at the other person and say “hello”,
then introduce yourself briefly.
C also introduced himself very naturally.
After a brief understanding of each other,
the two talked more naturally.
B frankly said that
he is not good at communicating with strangers,
and C expressed
just say it freely”.
B talks about some of the troubles
and trifles in his life,
and is always concerned about the other person’s reaction.
If you feel that the other party is not interested,
you can immediately stop the topic of conversation,
the outcome of the conversation will go very smoothly.
Experiments show that
politeness is very important in human-to-human communication,
it can quickly shorten the psychological distance
between two parties,
generating a feeling of closeness.
A and B are not good at communicating,
they don’t know how to attract the other’s interest
and topic of conversation.
But B does better than A in terms of politeness,
he “looks into the other’s eyes and says hello”,
before talking “introduces himself”,
and has a sincere attitude,
caring about reactions of the opponent.
A series of these behaviors make the other person feel that
he is a person who understands politeness
and wants to be close to others,
thereby developing sympathy for him.
Thus, regardless of the content of the conversation,
B has initially won the other’s sympathy,
which is the condition for the subsequent conversations.
Psychologists say that
people who constantly have problems
with socializing are often those
who have problems with basic politeness.
Basic etiquette is often the details of life that go unnoticed.
Chinese writer Wang Lu once held a meeting with friends at home.
There were many guests in attendance,
from elderly scholars to very young graduates.
Vuong Lo was busy receiving guests,
he was talking enthusiastically with a new friend
when he discovered that a guest was just looking at him,
Vuong Lo slapped his hand on his forehead,
then he remembered that he was too careless,
as the host,
he should first let the guests get to know each other.
There was an elderly scholar surnamed Yang,
and a fourth-year student surnamed Zhang.
When Wang Lu introduced the two to get acquainted,
he first said to Truong:
“This is Professor Duong,
who is very famous in the world.”
Then said to Professor Duong:
“This is Mr. Truong,
a very talented young man.”
After the introduction,
Vuong Lo discovered that
Professor Duong’s face was not very good,
and Zhang was not comfortable talking.
Truong patted Vuong Lu’s shoulder and said:
“Why did you introduce me to the professor first,
didn’t you see that the professor was angry?”
Vuong Lo did not understand,
what does the order of introduction
before and after have anything to do with?
Wang Lu didn’t know that in the basic etiquette of socializing,
introducing others to acquaintances,
the order was very important.
There is a basic principle here,
people with high status should have the right to learn priority.
According to this principle,
we should introduce low-status people to high-status people,
introduce juniors to seniors first,
introducing men to women first, etc.
And Vuong Lo made a mistake
when introducing Mr. Truong first,
which shows disrespect to the professor.
Basic etiquette is our first business card in communication.
It represents our moral,
intellectual and cultural cultivation.
In this respect,
we must not do it lightly,
because the impression we leave on others is only a flash of a second or two.
the guys who make the girls fall in love will often actively open the door
for the girl before getting in the car,
actively pull the chair,
when ordering priority food for women to call first,
even remember are women’s preferences.
And those who have just opened their mouth
to ask a woman’s age will often be considered vulgar
and disrespectful by others.
On a public billboard,
a polite banner reads:
These slogans can make everyone’s life warmer.
Politeness is an art,
so after entering society,
we must definitely study and cultivate,
and at the same time take it as joy,
consider it a delicate medal clipped on the lapel,
Plus points for your qualities.
Politeness reflects a person’s cultivation,
can also win the respect of the other party,
but this needs to be seen a lot,
heard a lot and practiced step by step.
(1) Smiling is polite
We smile brightly
and step up to shake hands with each other,
the other party will feel that we are easy to approach,
and will not have a defensive mentality,
so the two sides will easily become friends.
(2) Politeness must be practiced many times,
until a good habit is formed
To form a habit of politeness,
we must constantly practice,
once we get used to it,
we will do it very naturally.
Lesson 2: Do what you are good at and try to be better
than the people around you
There is an old saying:
“It is better to be the head of a chicken,
not the tail of a phoenix”.
A lot of young people just starting out don’t understand this.
They choose a job like buying a stock.
When they see an industry with potential,
they rush into it.
If they see another hot industry,
they rush to jump jobs.
These people participate in the job fair like going to a festival,
looking at the flowers on horseback,
leisurely looking at the scenery on the roadside,
and finally they are confused,
not knowing where the end point is.
The marketplace is like learning martial arts,
if you stop everywhere,
you will never be able to become a person
with superior martial arts,
even being refused
by the great brothers of other sects to accept you
as a disciple,
because they are worried about you.
You will apply a bit of the previous sect to your sect.
job applicants will all encounter a question:
“Why do you often change the working environment?”,
no director likes employees who constantly switch jobs,
because they don’t want to spend money.
Hire someone who is not dedicated to doing a good job.
A movie company recruited a director’s assistant,
there was a young man.
He appeared nervous as he waited for the interview,
seemingly a little nervous.
He looked at his watch three times,
finally got his name called,
the guy was very excited
and walked into the interview room.
The director smiled and said:
“You look happy,
is it because you like this job?”
The boy said,
“Yes, I really like it.”
The director nodded and asked,
“Have you had any work experience?”
The guy answered honestly:
but I am very interested in this job,
I also have confidence to do well!”
The director thought for a moment and then asked:
“What did you do before?
Why do you want to change jobs?
The young man sighed and said,
“I used to sell plane tickets.
I did very well,
but this industry has not prospered for two years,
plus the economic crisis,
basically no performance,
I immediately decided to go out.
People say that the film industry is an industry
with great potential for growth,
so I am extremely excited
and hope to be able to promote my talent in this field.”
The director heard this,
couldn’t help but smile and said:
can I correct your wrong thinking a bit?
There is a saying in the market that only individuals fail,
there are no failed professions.
A downhill business that may not feed everyone
but will certainly enrich some.
We must not choose to give up
because of the failure of the whole industry,
nor because of the attractiveness of the profession,
thinking that it is definitely suitable for us.
Do you know how many years
I’ve been in this industry?
I have experienced so much suffering.
I also felt that the future was vague,
there was no hope,
but I persisted.
Because I feel this industry is very suitable for me,
so I try to learn,
improve my level,
try to get the best level in the profession.
I always believe that,
until I do well,
there will definitely be a harvest.”
Of course, the boy also lost his chance this time,
but the words
of the director gave him useful suggestions.
He changed a lot of jobs
but never fully developed his ability,
when he got bored,
he gave up.
if we all refuse to study deeply about the work,
we will definitely not have success.
There is a saying that goes like this:
“You can do many things in a lifetime,
but if you want to do the best,
you can only do one thing.”
The law of concentration of psychology tells us,
only when people concentrate on one area can they do well in that area.
We do any profession,
we consider the highest requirements of that profession as our goal,
so we can be successful.
There are so many things that can be done,
in the end we have to choose which one to do?
Research psychology has found that doing self-interest
and having a knack can awaken the hidden potential inside people.
In this world,
a person never leaves you,
shares your joy,
tolerates your stubbornness,
endures your temper,
uses all of his heart to love you,
spends all his time with your time beside you.
However, for this closest person,
have you ever really understood it?
What is he like,
what does he like to do,
what is his forte,
what kind of life does he want in the end?
the law of focus indicates that
people achieve success
by focusing on a certain area.
no matter what industry we work in,
we must try our best to become the best in that profession.
When we strive to the point of dedication,
becoming an excellent person will no longer be difficult.
people can hardly understand themselves.
When evaluating themselves,
people often appear egotistical
which is caused by a subjective difference in perception,
this is called self-perception gap.
After this disparity is formed,
people will feel no sense of security,
do not understand their own advantages and disadvantages,
it is easy to arise thinking according to the majority,
running after people,
pursuing professions attractive,
regardless of whether it is suitable or not.
when I found out that this profession was not suitable for me,
I immediately felt stressed and inhibited,
so my work would be ineffective
and of course I would fail.
Before choosing a career,
we need to ask ourselves a few questions:
“Do I really love it?
Can it bring me joy and a sense of success?
Does it match my characteristics,
and ability level?”
If the answer is yes,
it’s the right career for you.
Once you have made a choice,
don’t give up easily,
try to do the best.
but the best.
Zeng Quoc Phien once said:
“There are no incompetent people in the world,
only talented people misplaced.”
Smart people will do their job,
so they can make themselves more motivated
and have greater success.
(1) Find a job that belongs to your forte
We must learn to “see ourselves”,
find the work that we can do the best,
and at the same time bravely accept challenges,
unleashing our potential.
(2) Only doing the right thing can bring you success
If we do the right thing,
we will feel extremely excited,
we will devote all our attention to it to study and research.
This motivation will make us have unexpected breakthroughs
that ordinary people cannot imagine,
until we accumulate rich experience,
success will come to us easily.
Lesson 3: Learn to be tolerant, even if it starts with pretending
Tolerance is the most wonderful thing in the world.
It can make people healthy,
full of happiness.
The psychologist did a research experiment on “the relationship
between tolerance and health”.
Volunteers were instructed to first recall a scene of their own trauma with tolerance,
and then use intolerance to recall the same scene.
The test showed that,
before the attitude of tolerance,
the volunteers’ heart rate was 1.75 beats/4 seconds;
and before the intolerance,
their heart rate increased markedly to 2.6 beats / 4 seconds.
Stanford University in the US tested the “Stanford tolerance plan” among the participants,
70% of people said
“the feeling of hurt has decreased significantly”,
while 20.3% of people
even expressed its health situation has improved somewhat.
When we are tolerant of others,
we are also being tolerant of ourselves,
leaving a comfortable space for our souls,
maintaining a sense of joy.
This is the law of tolerance in psychology.
A person with a tolerant heart will certainly not compare calculations with others,
often have a bright smile like the spring breeze,
exuding a unique personality charm,
these will also help them have a good predestined relationship.
A mother-in-law was especially attentive to her new daughter-in-law.
A daughter-in-law who makes a small mistake will get angry,
from the fact that the daughter-in-law can’t cook well,
can’t distinguish onions,
ginger and garlic to the fact that
the daughter-in-law is not hard-working and doesn’t like doing housework.
Seeing her daughter-in-law coming home late,
she immediately said her daughter-in-law was playing outside,
looking for an excuse to work more.
The flu itself is thought to be caused by the daughter-in-law.
a friend came to my house to play.
The mother-in-law immediately talked a lot,
blamed her daughter-in-law,
even pointed at the clothes on the balcony and said:
“Why did her mother give birth to a daughter like that?
The clothes don’t know how to wash,
and they’re patchy and not clean at all.”
The friend heard what she said
and went to the balcony to look closely.
It turned out that it was not the clothes that were not clean,
but the windows that were not clean.
So the friend immediately took a towel to clean the window.
When her mother-in-law saw this,
she was very surprised.
It turned out that it was
because I was not tolerant enough,
seeing my daughter-in-law doing anything is considered a mistake.
she no longer considers her daughter-in-law,
always being more tolerant of her,
between the two has since improved a lot.
Sometimes it’s not that people make too many mistakes,
but because they are not tolerant enough,
like the mother-in-law in the example above.
In fact, only when both are tolerant can they move the other,
can they live in harmony.
On the contrary,
if we are not tolerant enough,
resentful and looking for others to reason with,
even having fierce disputes,
it will increase an enemy.
It can be seen that tolerance is the best conflict resolution weapon
with the greatest power.
the law of tolerance is that only people should be tolerant of themselves,
tolerant of others,
leaving a comfortable space for both souls,
so that they can have a beautiful life.
Educator Olexandrovych Sukhomlynsky once said,
tolerance produces stronger moral effects than punishment.”
This theory is applied to education and management,
with very good results.
When an employee makes a mistake,
a leader who severely criticizes for a while will often have the opposite result,
making employees feel humiliated
and hurt their self-esteem.
But if the leader is a little tolerant,
and cares about employees,
this type of “soft tie” will often be much more effective.
Tuan Hung’s employee is the “late arrival king” recognized
by the whole company.
The department manager had suggested to him many times
but to no avail.
Ways such as deduction of salary
and criticism in the meeting have all been implemented,
but Tuan Hung has only learned a little bit,
his heart is full of resentment.
when Tuan Hung went to work,
he missed two buses
and arrived at the company gate fifteen minutes late.
He rushed up the stairs,
suddenly bumping into someone.
Look up, it’s the general manager.
Tuan Hung thought it was over this time,
hurriedly apologized and explained:
I didn’t mean it,
because the morning traffic jam …”
The general director expressed that
he did not need to explain,
he also smiled and said:
have you had breakfast yet,
you can’t starve to work.
come have breakfast with me!”
Tuan Hung blushed,
before the general manager’s gracious tolerance,
he felt extremely ashamed.
Tuan Hung was no longer late.
He completely changed his previous lazy attitude,
worked extremely hard,
positive attitude rose,
everyone was surprised to say that
he had turned into a different person.
Thus, compared to the division director,
the general director’s tolerant attitude clearly has a better influence
on Tuan Hung.
Such a strange human being
– likes to be treated in a soft,
not rigid manner.
If they are tolerated by others,
they will appreciate it
and will think of a way to repay it.
Even if it’s someone you don’t like,
be tolerant of that person.
This not only shows your cultivation,
but also can get the acceptance of the other party.
A truly tolerant person will be tolerant of those who have opposed him,
tolerant of those who have criticized him,
so that he can improve himself,
and the opponent will also be admired for that.
Tolerance is a precious virtue,
knowing tolerance will feel comfortable,
joyful, can have friendship,
So we must learn to be tolerant.
(1) Tolerance to self and others
We should be tolerant of our own foolish
and wrong actions,
and thereby learn from experience to correct our mistakes,
so that we can improve ourselves.
we must also be tolerant of others,
not using others’ mistakes to punish ourselves,
so that we can live happily.
(2) Tolerance with colleagues,
Tolerance with colleagues can lead to
both maintaining friendly relations,
in this tolerant environment,
we can improve work efficiency.
leaders should also be tolerant of employees,
so that new employees can be loyal to the company
and contribute to the company’s benefits more.
Lesson 4: Know how to control and hide negative emotions
There is a saying that goes like this:
“Master your emotions
and you can have the world.”
Some people describe it in a figurative way:
emotions are like angels
or demons in our hearts.
high emotions will make people lose reason.
anxiety will make our thinking chaotic,
unable to make accurate judgments,
after causing damage,
due to the inability to compensate will make us extremely regretful:
“I am really sorry.
I don’t understand why then,
I don’t remember at all what happened then.”
In life, we say that someone has a confused,
it’s just that he shows happiness
and sadness right on his face,
People with an immature mindset are like changing weather
and erratic psychology.
Being angry is taciturn,
anyone who asks does not speak or scolds indiscriminately,
meeting someone immediately vents their anger on that person,
making people afraid to approach;
afflictions are furrowed eyebrows,
do not care about anyone;
If you are afraid,
you will nag,
like the sky is falling,
just pat him on the back,
he can instantly faint.
People who often carry negative moods such as anger,
will often be excluded from the crowd,
so they will not be able to have a good relationship.
Emotions are contagious,
a person who is easily upset makes people
around him not want to get close,
because he is always in a bad mood,
the compressed air around him will make others uncomfortable.
Psychology believes that
negative emotions will make people’s moods suppressed,
making people lose the will to rise,
lose the will to fight.
it also causes psychological damage,
Knowing how to control
and hide negative emotions has become an indispensable human criterion.
In other words,
emotions are one of your personal qualities,
which determine how you communicate and how you get results.
As one psychologist said:
“In fact, the environment in which we live is essentially neutral,
it is emotions that label it positive or negative.
People often consider their assumptions
to be explained into the nature of life,
and at the same time are influenced
by those assumptions.”
Psychologists conducted an interesting experiment.
He asked two groups of volunteers to use different expressive poses
to view the same picture.
The first group of volunteers had a fountain pen in their mouth,
which made them look like they were smiling;
while the second group held a pencil with their lips,
which made them look like they were angry.
Volunteers were asked about “feelings about the picture”,
the results of which among the volunteers in the first group
They were many who found the picture interesting.
Experiments tell us that,
because each person’s emotions and thoughts are different,
when looking at the same thing,
it will show different views.
We are often constrained by these emotions,
but once we learn to self-regulate
and control these emotions,
we quickly discover that things are not as bad as we imagined.
Anh Hong has worked as an accountant in the company for two years,
normally her temperament is very mild,
but very thoughtful, everyone loves her.
But by the end of the year,
due to busy work and great mental pressure,
her personality also became hot-tempered.
At the company,
because of a small matter,
it is possible to quarrel with colleagues;
When I got home,
I also sighed and lamented,
nagging and blaming my husband.
Everyone was very concerned about her,
she herself felt that it was not good,
so she went to a psychologist to confess.
Anh Hong said:
“I can’t control myself,
often stressed and angry for no reason.”
The expert said:
“Can you tell me why you are in a bad mood?”
Anh Hong shook her head and said, ”
I don’t know myself.
Maybe it’s because the work pressure is too great.”
Step-by-step expert guide:
“Work pressure is always there,
but has there been anything particularly pressing lately?”
Guided by an expert,
Anh Hong said:
“Recently the biggest pressure is that
the company wants to cut human resources, meanwhile,
I made a professional mistake not long ago,
I am very afraid because of this mistake that I made a mistake
by the company.”
After knowing the problem,
Anh Hong felt more comfortable.
“After expressing my inner sorrows in words,
I felt that things did not seem to be so bad anymore.”
After finding the problem,
you need to think of a solution.
Anh Hong put aside the pressure,
wholeheartedly focused on the work,
and finally achieved excellent results.
She herself was also very happy,
expressing gratitude to the guidance of the psychologist,
thanks to him,
she was able to overcome her temporary emotions.
Method for us to regulate emotions including self-suggestion.
When we look in the mirror and see a frowning face,
do we suddenly feel that our mood goes down?
At that time,
let’s make a happy expression,
smile at ourselves,
maintain for ten seconds,
we will find out that smiling is very simple,
and then also find that the mood is a bit lighter.
This is an interesting finding of psychologists,
emotions will affect people’s expressions,
and expressions can also affect emotions.
We regulate emotions in many other ways,
by distracting attention,
eating right, etc.
We are the owners of emotions,
so we must treat and manage it well,
and at the same time let it remain in the best state,
as the guardian god of our luck and predestined.
fear… all negative emotions reduce the level of human intelligence,
make people slow down,
lose the will to rise,
that would bring great harm to us.
So how do we get rid of these negative emotions?
(1) Method of redirecting attention
When our emotions fall to the bottom,
we must learn to redirect our attention.
We can redirect our attention to activities that
we are interested in,
and we can also recall the things that make us feel the happiest,
(2) Reasonable mood release
We can apply the appropriate method
to remove the negative emotions in our heart,
for example crying,
when we are attacked,
we can find a place and cry out loud.
Lesson 5: Actively tell others:
I need your help
A and B were originally two poor guys,
the two of them went to work
as hired laborers from the countryside,
ate a bowl of noodles,
slept in the same bed,
regardless of my brother,
their feelings were very close.
A receives a salary,
and immediately invites B to eat barbecue by the roadside;
Tomorrow B receives a salary,
and also does not forget to buy some fruit for A.
This brother and sister relationship makes the two feel both close
Later, due to different opportunities
and the difference in capacity,
B’s career flourished.
A few years later,
B became a big rich boss,
living in a mansion,
driving a luxury car.
And A is still a hard worker,
renting an old house.
B can’t forget this friend,
always wants to help A.
He helps A in every way.
A felt very grateful,
but over time A felt unable to repay,
ashamed of himself.
A begins to deliberately refuse B’s help,
the relationship between the two gradually separates.
the “seesaw effect” is just a relationship between people,
like two people playing on a seesaw,
if you want to live together peacefully,
you must keep balance
and equality in terms of levels for each person to go by both.
Once the two sides appear to have different levels of giving,
the balance will be like a seesaw.
As early as 1974,
the psychologist Homans gave the famous theory of communication equilibrium.
In it, it is shown that
the communication relationship in real life
It is also a form of exchange in society.
This is similar to physical exchange in the market,
you deliver the goods,
I give the money.
I’m not happy;
I eat rice without paying,
the more unhappy he is.
No one likes to be taken advantage of by others,
in the process of exchange,
to return no less than giving.
In fact, it’s not just the “winner”
who feels unbalanced in their hearts,
even the “winners” side will develop this feeling of imbalance.
When we are still in school,
teachers always teach us to help each other,
the two sides must maintain a balance in psychology,
so that the relationship can be maintained
and lasting system.
So, how do we maintain this balance?
both sides must give, and moreover,
they must receive the return of the other party.
In real life,
there are some people
who do not understand this principle,
only know how to give
-but do not know how to receive.
These people believe that as long as they are kind to others,
they will definitely receive good predestined conditions.
Dung is a new employee in the company.
Because he wants to have a good relationship
with his colleagues in the company,
he tries his best to help others.
Regardless of big and small matters,
as long as he can help,
he will take over.
When someone else asked him,
“Need help?” He used to say,
“It’s okay, I can do it.”
The result was the opposite of what he wanted,
his efforts to help did not return the enthusiastic treatment of his colleagues.
Colleagues in front of him expressed their appreciation,
but behind him said,
“Being around him feels pressured,
he seems to be too good to others.”
Some colleagues even felt that he deliberately smothered people.
On the other hand,
when it’s next to it,
it won’t feel very natural.
This approach of Dung is considered to be overly enthusiastic in communication.
He doesn’t want to annoy others,
makes people feel like they have nothing in return,
develops a feeling of indebtedness,
develops a feeling of inadequacy
equals, also do not want to continue this relationship.
If you refuse all the help of others,
it will make others feel that you are too good,
and create a sense of failure in yourself.
When you work in a team,
the element of harmony and cooperation is even more emphasized.
If you alone are like a robot,
easily “lifting the whole sky”,
you will be considered
by others as an individual heroism
who likes to excel,
very easy to be bullied by the collective.
People even mocked you:
“You have such ability,
if you like to perform like that,
do it alone,
we can’t hold a flower as big as you.”
And the director also finds it very awkward,
no matter how good your ability is,
he will remind you:
“You must learn to unite,
It is said that women are born with the weaker sex,
but skillfully using the technique of “weakness” can help us
It will have better relationships.
One host joked:
“If the husband brings home a good woman,
the computer breaks,
she will calmly take down the server alone,
quickly deal with it.
Surely the husband will be stunned.
if a woman pretends to be stupid and says ”
You’re so stupid,
I don’t know this either”,
then you can give your husband a chance to show it off,
or just a simple reboot,
the woman gives you a gift
by her husband gave her a complimenting hug and said,
I wouldn’t be able to do anything.”
That’s what a smart woman is.”
Psychologists say that everyone has a desire
to express in their hearts
and hopes to show their best side in communication.
No one likes to be with someone who is always better than them,
making them feel like a failure.
we must learn to reveal our weaknesses,
sincerely seek help from others,
and satisfy the dignity
and self-esteem of others.
This can quickly shorten the distance
between the two sides,
and also make their image more intimate.
expressing need for help can reduce the envy
and dissatisfaction of others,
is beneficial to maintaining people’s psychological balance,
is also beneficial to unite people around.
So, how should we expose our weaknesses?
(1) Know how to choose content
In front of people of low status,
let’s try to pretend that we are incompetent,
have limited experience,
and present ourselves as ordinary people.
That way you can get help from others.
(2) Know how to choose the method
We can through the method of reducing our belly to the stomach of a person,
or through the way of humorously mocking ourselves
in front of people to reveal our weakness.
That way you can show your own weaknesses,
the strengths of others,
the other party also wants to help you more.