Law of Attraction! Supreme Secret!
Chapter 8: Let Positive Thinking Work
The idea throughout Rhonda Byrne’s Secret is this:
thought gives power.
What goes on in your head is what you bring into your life.
If you think positively,
good things will happen.
If you think negative,
you will also draw negativity into your life.
If you can recall what you were like
before the age of two,
you would realize that you couldn’t distinguish
between good and bad.
Scents are not classified as pleasant or unpleasant.
You don’t know what you should
or shouldn’t put in your mouth.
But as you get older,
the nervous system starts to develop
and you learn that spoiled food makes you sick
and needs to be avoided.
Over the course of 200,000 years of human development,
we have gathered a multitude of shades of negative emotions
in our unconscious collection.
Pay attention to the sense of smell,
bad smells will make you uncomfortable
because most of them are harmful to health.
Nature makes us think negatively about these things
because of our survival instinct,
and the result is a deep connection in the human psyche
between unpleasant emotions
and what should be avoided.
If we are faced with something that seems unsafe,
negative thoughts will immediately pop into our heads.
At that time,
the instinct of self-defense will help us not to be harmed.
But in many cases,
this reflex goes too far,
and the negative response causes more harm than good.
For example,
we think that white is good and black is bad.
When this unconscious belief enters your daily life,
our ability to perceive the truth in those situations will be distorted
and we will have a negative view of them
even if it is not the truth.
“There is no such thing as good or bad,
only our thoughts make it so.” -William Shakespeare
Everyone is under pressure and intent on change;
Your negative thoughts have the power
to change the way the person you are talking to thinks about.
The same goes for positive thinking,
of course.
The instinct to think negatively about the enemy may be born
of the desire to live,
but it actually has the opposite effect.
According to the Law of Attraction,
if we carry this hostility within us,
our negative thoughts bring threats that cannot be denied.
And as we said in chapter 3.
This threat will combine with the negative impact
that the object of the negative thought itself will have on us.
However, if a person thinks positively,
he will only accept the negative
thoughts we aim at him like a heavyweight boxer receiving a childish punch.
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TEACHING GOOD THINGS
Managers who lash out or express negative emotions
in front of their employees often fail.
They will certainly increase negativity among their employees,
especially those who are inherently negative.
A manager may yell at employees
and think this will motivate them to improve.
However, only positive support with encouragement,
praise and sincerity can really make others perform at their best.
When you need to criticize,
do it gently and carefully.
Talented directors can make brilliant
and hugely successful films
without the need for famous actors.
Moreover, they can make any actor show his best acting ability.
When James Cameron let Kate Winslet
and Leonardo DiCapiro take on the lead roles in Titanic,
they weren’t all known talents in previous films,
but Titanic still became a huge hit
and was critically acclaimed by critics.
Very highly rated.
More recently is director Peter Jackson’s huge success
with his excellent film Lord of the Rings,
which doesn’t have to rely on the star power
of any of the cast.
Your ability to bring to life the best of others can help you make friends
even in the darkest of crowds.
And likewise,
the one who stirs up the worst part of a person will find enemies
even in the most compassionate community.
Like yin and yang,
positive
and negative are always intertwined;
It’s just a matter of which aspect you will focus on and get out.
Only the bravest leader can inspire courage in his army.
American General George S. Patton,
one of the most successful generals of World War II,
knew this all too well.
He once said,
“Shy people will never inspire confidence in others.”
Living by the motto that you should “always do whatever
you ask of your subordinates”,
Patton inspired an incredible amount of fighting spirit in his army,
earning respect through his victories on the battlefield.
Hitler’s harshest school,
Hitler later called him:
“The crazy cowboy general of America.”
If we extend our reach beyond the battlefield
the person who gives a lot of love will receive more in return.
In the early 1970s,
John Lennon and Yoko Ono staged a “bed-in” antiwar protest:
they lay in bed,
ate and drank in bed,
and sang songs praising peace,
non-violence to promote his message of harmony
during the Vietnam War,
and hundreds of thousands of people responded to his message.
When Lennon died,
more than 100,000 people gathered in Manhattan’s Central Park
to remember him,
and “Strawberry Fields,”
a memorial garden near the park,
is a popular spot for those who cherish the message of Lennon that peace.
Like Dr. John Gray,
author of Men Are From Mars,
Women Are From Venus,
once said in The Secret:
“To receive love. .. let love fill you
until you become a magnet.”
Unleash your best potential in your spouse
Of all decisions,
choosing a life partner for you has the biggest impact on your life.
Once you have made your decision,
happiness or suffering will begin there.
Getting married is like being born again.
And after the wedding,
you will have a whole new family
– parents,
relationships,
children… more and more.
Think seriously about whether your future mate has enough strengths.
And finally,
remember,
it’s better to be single than to be with a bad partner.
“If you have the ability to perceive each present moment,
the images of obstacles
– which are more than 90% visible
– will be destroyed and disappear.” – Deepak Chopra
Whether you believe in karma,
gods,
or coincidences that can bring you to a certain person or not,
you can still let your awareness guide you out
of a situation not as desired.
Perception is a perfect tool
without any bias to judge a situation
and make the right decisions.
If you are driving up a mountain
and suddenly a cliff appears,
only concentration will help you drive safely.
This basic principle applies to all areas of life:
you may face disaster,
but awareness will save you.
Life gives us a lot of things,
some of them may not be what we want,
but how you react to them will determine your future.
Cognitive training has a great influence on our lives.
When it comes to choosing a life partner,
make sure you use your sanity
and insight to notice your reaction to that person
and make the right decision.
By doing so,
you will create your own destiny
and won’t just choose your life partner based on mood swings
or fleeting emotions like craving
and excitement or loneliness and boredom.
Romantic relationships are really mysterious.
Some couples meet for years before getting married
and then breaking up again after only a few short months
while there are couples who only know each other for a few months
and live together for life.
Of course,
every relationship has its reasons.
Be careful not to compare your spouse
or children with anyone else for any reason.
Celebrating the virtues of a child
who is different from your own
and saying your child can do better is never effective
and even dangerous.
Positive thinking is the way to go.
Maintaining a positive attitude will dispel the weakness
in those you love.
Be very careful when arguing,
never bring past actions as an argument for argument.
It will only make things worse.
Take a look at your strengths
and you’ll see that you have nothing to lose
and everything to gain
– most importantly,
a happy home.
There may be times when you can’t change other people’s thoughts
and aspirations just by thinking positively,
but nevertheless,
you can still clearly influence them
to do the right thing in the end.
Even without these things,
staying positive for your own physical
and mental health is already a strong enough reason to do so.
“Anything we do with negative energy will damage it
and then bring more pain,
more unhappiness.
Plus, any negative mental state is contagious:
Unhappiness spreads more easily than a physical illness.” – Eckhart Tolle
Extremely negative people need a huge amount of positive energy to change.
You need to send them positive energy in an effort
to balance their negativity.
But without enough positive energy,
you won’t succeed;
moreover,
it is possible that you will fall prey
to their negativity as it also spreads
to you like a contagious disease.
Extremely negative people can transform your efforts
to use that positive trait in your life
their lives negatively.
In this case,
you should stop trying and walk away.
Think of it this:
if you continue to give money to a greedy person,
you will run out of money
before people give up their greed,
and if you don’t let go of them soon,
you may end up in debt!
“Choose an optimistic way of life,
we will feel so much better.” -14th Dat Ma
That saying means,
we can reach a higher level
of development than the current person and be liberated
if we know how to use positive thinking to transform negative thoughts.
Otherwise we will continue to fall into the traps
that unconscious thinking rooted in negative thinking creates.
Looking closely at our thoughts and feelings helps us live
and act positively.
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LIVE BETWEEN POSITIVE PEOPLE
One of the secrets of the art of living is to live among good people.
If you find yourself living among people who are jealous,
narrow-minded,
selfish, lying, etc.,
try to free yourself from them
before your mental and physical progress is ruined.
If you can’t give up,
do your best to keep the bad things
around you from entering your mind.
Unfortunately, the Law of Attraction means that mean people,
like gossip or jealousy,
will naturally find each other.
If you hear a group of nosy people talking to each other
and yearn to join the conversation,
control your impulse and stop.
If not, you may end up joining this cycle
and find yourself the target of petty gossip.
As the old saying goes:
“Tell me who your friends are,
and I’ll tell you who you are”.
Friends with bad habits can have a bad influence on us.
Keep friends with admirable personalities
and they will help you live in a healthy mindset.
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CHILDREN IS A WHITE SHEET
Children are extremely sensitive.
They are like a white canvas to record the drawings
of parents or relatives.
The drawing will be beautiful and bright
or dark and messy,
depending entirely on the person holding the brush.
Many babies grow up with unexpected personality traits
because they were designed that way
(with the exception of babies
with congenital genetic defects,
of course).
Parents of children with behavior problems may think
they are contributing
to good citizenship by berating
and criticizing their behavior.
Often they will fail to recognize their role
in the development of their children.
They can deceive society
but in the end will suffer the consequences
for their stupidity.
No one can deceive the law of karma.
If we don’t have time for our children,
they won’t have time for us either.
If we treat them unfairly,
they won’t be fair to us either.
Stinginess has its genetics.
And if the influence isn’t obvious on the outside,
it’s probably lurking somewhere inside.
As your children mature,
they will tend to bring the very negative traits
we instilled into their families
– childhood fears of abandonment,
for example,
will turn into related suspicions related to marital betrayal
– and the cycle goes on.
We must not raise our children foolishly,
but with wisdom and proper care.
Keep them away from negative people in the first place.
Be as positive as possible to encourage them
to follow suit and refrain from voicing any negative
thoughts about them or others to stop spreading bad news.
Don’t set a bad example by doing things like nosy,
smoking,
drinking…
It’s best never to tell a child not to do something,
but tell them what to do.
Instead of telling them,
“don’t fail the exam,”
say “try to get good grades.”
Instead of saying “don’t be late,”
say “come home on time.”
We discussed in chapter 3 why we do it.
Likewise,
talking about rewards,
not punishments,
creates a positive psychological image in the child’s mind.
Both research and common sense say that children raised in good
and happy families become more positive and happy people.
It is very rare that a child with a naturally good character can walk out
of a bad environment with his head held high.
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CHANGE YOURSELF FIRST,
YOU WILL PROMOTE THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU.
Avoid thinking negatively about negative things.
If you meet someone selfish,
don’t think negatively about selfishness
but accept it as a normal thing.
After all,
everyone will suffer the consequences of this disease.
Once germs have spread through the air,
the best defense is to keep yourself happy.
Hating them,
dwelling on them over and over,
or focusing on a negative scenario in your head won’t help.
With peace of mind,
you can choose your best actions
A person’s personality is determined by many factors:
heredity,
upbringing,
education level,
life experience are a few of them.
It would be very narrow-minded to judge a person as “bad”,
as “negative” after only a few encounters.
We should consider all the factors that shape a person’s character.
“Do not judge and do not condemn what you do not know the cause of it,
nor the result of it.
And remember:
what you condemn will condemn you,
and what you judge will one day come to you.” -“God”
The culture and traditions in which we grow up also greatly influence
how we think positively or negatively.
In India, for example,
people shake their heads to say “yes,”
while the same gesture in the West carries the opposite meaning.
In some cultures sticking your tongue out
at someone means being affectionate,
in others it is considered rude.
The difference comes from people’s perceptions
and from the assessments
we make based on the conditions
and tendencies we see the problem.
We all know that changing our habits
and ways of thinking is not an easy task,
but changing those things in others is much more difficult.
Don’t be afraid to try.
You can help others the most by changing yourself.
If you think positively,
you will transmit that positivity to the people around you.
“Don’t focus on other people’s mistakes,
What others have done or haven’t done,
Just look at what you have done or haven’t done yourself.” – Buddha
Oprah Winfrey’s popular talk show has gone
through a lot of changes throughout her career.
In the past,
Oprah was very assertive and had emotional problems
that led to bouts of depression and gluttony.
Her personal path has now diverged into spiritual seeking
and pursuing a deeper understanding of the nature of God,
of the soul, of life…
The fruit of a higher understanding,
her ability to be more steadfast and other positive things
to appear in her life is that her show has changed
from talking about issues of fashion
or celebrities to issues of spiritual importance.
We cannot underestimate the positive influence
that comes from Oprah’s new positive energy.
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ENJOY THE POSITIVES AND ELIMINATE THE NEGATIVE
Positive thinkers are not afraid of criticism;
they appreciate it and know how to use it properly.
Negative thinkers always despise criticism.
They will argue
or will secretly react to protect their personal image,
but really,
they only make things worse.
Their response was extremely disproportionate to the initial criticism.
It may just be that they didn’t know the right way
to take it and created a low self-esteem that made them despair.
Positive and negative thinkers react completely differently
when receiving advice.
One person will focus,
appreciate the advice
and find it valuable
while the other will have a personal defensive reflex against the advice
and never see his chance in it.
Negative thinkers think that scolding
or criticizing others will make them feel better.
The reality is the opposite
– negative thinking will attract similar ones
and breaking out of this vicious cycle is not easy.
Positive thinkers motivate and cheer others up
because they can see and promote the best in others
and inspire them to do the same for themselves.
Everything has its positive and negative aspects,
so even the greatest must fight to be free
from negativity and admire the good in people.
Focus on this,
see how it perfects other people’s feelings and behaviors.
Make sure you do the same with your partner.
We all have strengths and weaknesses;
Whether we can see the good in others,
or even find the positive in their bad,
depends entirely on your perspective.
The good points of each person are very different,
so a couple can make up
for each other in areas where the other is lacking.
The happiest couple is the one
who always looks at the good points of the other.
Negative people close to us,
like colleagues,
are often more dangerous than our enemies.
Because they unintentionally sent us negativity.
Be alert and focused enough to realize
if you are positive enough to neutralize the negative in them
or need to find a way out.
We have negative points inside of us
but we are not aware of it.
It is very harmful to mental
and possibly physical health,
manifesting in anything from pain from poor posture
to malignant tumors.
We must always be vigilant and alert,
ready for the suffocating races of bad behavior,
resentment,
envy and the like in oneself as soon as they appear.
Then we can free our unconscious from them.
“The immune system is always eavesdropping on our inner dialogue.” – Deepak Chopra
It’s a bad fact:
a negative thought has the power
to make us forget a lot of other good things,
but a positive thought doesn’t have the same effect on bad things.
A child who has been abused
by a parent once will carry an imprint
from that childhood until the end of his life
even if his parents are always exemplary and positive.
The way we think is completely predictable.
We do so according to what was programmed in each of us
when we were young.
We see this when we attend the hall 30 years have passed
but some of my friends still seem to think the same way,
tell old stories and have the same outlook on life as they used to be.
The level of success of each person in life is often determined
by the way of thinking.
When negative thinkers have a good chance of succeeding,
they often don’t realize it
because so much of their energy has been wasted by negative thinking.
Henry Ford summed it up by saying,
“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t,
you’re right.”
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CAREER “POSTIC” AND “NEGATIVE”
No matter what job you do,
other people have opinions about it.
Prejudice is what causes them to react to you positively or negatively.
Doctors, especially in the past,
were valued and seen as people who really wanted to help others.
This image is so strong that even a thief will not attack a doctor
and the police often turn a blind eye to their bad deeds.
However, this stereotype is fading,
one of the factors causing
it is the price of medical care services in some countries spike.
The police are people who always have an inevitable negative image
because of their negative thinking requirements.
Meeting a police officer on the street can spark a sense of panic
and we begin to wonder
if we did anything to raise suspicion.
Police officers have to hear too many negative stories over and over;
No one calls a cop to tell them they had a great day.
Police must always be careful not
to get bogged down in their work too deeply.
The importance of maintaining present-moment awareness
in one’s mind should be emphasized at school,
and it serves the vital function of a police training school
to mentally prepare for officers when actually working later.
Teaching is a profession that requires a lot of positive thinking.
Teachers carry a great responsibility
because they are the ones who create the future of an entire country.
Each student has a unique family situation,
emotional capacity and thinking.
Educating a child who already has a positive mindset is not difficult,
but motivating a child with a negative nature
to break the bad things is really a challenge.
In order to maintain a school’s reputation,
it is understandable to get rid of underperforming students,
but doing so will have a very negative impact on those children’s later lives.
For them, their chances of self-improvement
when excluded from the positive school environment are significantly
reduced and the likelihood
of delinquency increases.
This is not only a risk to the child and their family,
but to society as a whole.
Nursing is a profession that has the opportunity
to spread positive energy countless times a day.
Not only are they exposed to physical pain,
but they also have to deal with the emotional trauma
of the patient and the patient’s family.
Good nurses know what to do:
they keep themselves calm but stay positive
and send this energy to the patient and their family.
When a person is unwell,
the unconscious is often more sensitive than usual,
so the goodwill
and positivity from the nurse will be noted until a long time later.
The striking difference between the path
in front of a negative and positive thinker is
as clear as the road ahead of one who embarks on a perilous journey
but wears a blindfold with someone walking straight towards the sun light.
While the negative thinker is often sad
because of the darkness around him,
the positive thinker will go straight,
and bathe in the full light.
In the nature of all species,
whether plants or animals,
they turn to the sun for vital energy.
In the same way,
people are also guided
by the power of the unconscious towards the light
that comes from the world’s greatest positive thoughts.
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Chapter 8: Top Secrets
PLEASE ACTIVATE POSITIVE THINKING
Leaders must think positively to bring out the best in their subordinates.
Positive thinking is a valuable asset in all areas of life:
government,
military,
business and family.
Think positive thoughts often and consistently
to neutralize the bad influence of the negative people you meet.
Be confident and you will finish the semester.
Keep good and positive people as friends,
and stay away from negative people as much as possible.
Both of these types of people will influence the way you think.
See each person for what they are
without making hasty judgments.
Everyone has good and bad sides,
but do your best to focus and appreciate the good.
Recognize when negative thoughts start to pop into your head
and use this mantra:
“I own my thoughts.”
There are two kinds of thoughts:
one is what we want to think,
the other is what comes automatically.
At least 80% of our thoughts are of the latter type.
Use your awareness to capture them and eventually they will fade.
Thoughts that you actually choose will have a better effect.
Think positively about what might be considered an obstacle
and you will improve day by day.
Don’t try to change others.
Let them live their way.
Change yourself and miracles will happen to you and to everyone’s lives.
Rome wasn’t built in a day,
but it could be destroyed in a day.
Be careful with negative thoughts and actions
because they can quickly ruin all the positive results
you have in the minds of others and even yourself.
