Law of Attraction: Supreme Secret
Chapter 9: 11 How to Stop Negative Things
Getting rich begins with the right mindset,
the right words and the right plan. — Robert Kiyosaki
Emotions are our most vulnerable
because they are the language of the unconscious.
Thoughts are much easier to control than emotions
because they are not as profound.
With a little practice and present-moment awareness,
we can catch negative thoughts as they arise,
and choose positive thoughts instead.
But what do we do with negative emotions?
the father of psychoanalysis,
explained that most of our emotions
as adults are rooted in childhood experiences.
Buddhism again explains that our emotions come from karma,
from both this life and past lives.
Regardless of what explanation you believe,
emotions are forms of energy buried deep in our minds.
Only feelings that have just emerged can overshadow the emotions you are having.
Thinking alone is not strong enough to do this.
If you’re scared of an impending presentation,
you can tell yourself all day long that it’s silly to be scared,
that you’ve done this before,
and that you’re ready,
but you just can’t guide it to the emotional level.
Reasonable explanations are now useless
when the underlying emotion underlying your thinking is still fear.
How can you communicate with emotions
when language is completely meaningless on an emotional level?
If you say,
“Hey fear, go away,”
it would be silly to believe that it will answer,
“Of course,” and obey immediately.
Here are 11 ways you can change or remove unwanted emotions
when they arise.
1. ALWAYS FORGET
Forgiveness always triumphs over any negative emotions.
or a desire for revenge will disappear in the face of forgiveness.
Here, I don’t want to talk about forgiveness in words,
but forgiveness that comes from deep feelings.
We can say we’ve let things go,
that’s not always the case.
Remaining emotions will certainly create similar circumstances in the future
– the story is not over yet.
the cycle will never stop.
“Forgiveness is like the scent of violets left on the heel
of the shoe that has trampled it.” – Mark Twain
It is extremely important to understand that
negative emotions are the source of all weaknesses.
Although emotions of anger
and desire for revenge may seem very powerful, they are not.
Most people misunderstand that in order to defeat a person,
one must have a bad feeling about them.
In fact, the exact opposite is true:
victory comes from good feelings;
The more positive you feel,
the greater your victory will be.
Feeling good helps you to calm your anger
and use your clairvoyance
to solve the problems you need more effectively
than simply going along with your impulses.
Sun Tzu said,
“The best strategy to subdue the enemy is not to use war.”
This is achieved through positive emotions.
First, you have to feel positive,
and then you can bring the same feeling to your enemies.
Endogenous morphine released in the body
It will stimulate the same thing in the opponent.
Once you both have a positive feeling,
it’s very easy to come up with a solution
that’s best for everyone.
Buddhism teaches that:
“Revenge for with kindness,
and anger will be dissipated.
Revenge, resentment piled up.
This is the law of all things.”
Therefore, you must learn to forgive others
if you want to be forgiven.
The power of forgiveness will find
its way into the other person’s nervous system
and arouse there the same feeling,
which will come back to you.
That is what Buddhism teaches is the law of all things.
“What appears to be the weakness
of the ego is actually the real strength.” – Eckhart tolle
So instead of completely following the idea:
“Slap me once,
I slap you two back”,
follow the teaching of Jesus:
“If someone slaps you on the right cheek,
show them your left cheek. “
The condition here is of course
that you have to be very sincere
and really feel positive
and not just follow the teachings of the machine.
If you are not sincere,
the results will not be as expected.
Jesus also said, “Love your enemies.”
I must feel love before I show them my right cheek!
2. LOVE UNCONDITIONAL
If you’re being intimidated or attacked,
there’s no need to let bad things get in the way of your feelings.
Try your best not to get angry.
Realize that the person who hurts others is also carrying a wound;
They lack confidence,
fear not being accepted,
and have a myriad of potential emotional problems.
Try to be generous instead of hitting back
with a conditioned response of anger.
Let those feelings turn into true compassion and unconditional love.
“If you want others to be happy,
If you want to be yourself be happy,
be kind.”- Dalai Latma 14th
A mind full of love is always gentle,
peaceful and happy.
Any feelings of anger or jealousy that arise will diminish
and then gradually disappear.
The feeling of dissatisfaction will cease to exist
and there is no longer any need to be entangled in anything.
That mind always helps others
without expecting anything in return.
An angry mind will do the opposite:
it lives on its negative emotions
and worst impulses like hellfire.
Dr. Masaru Emoto in his book The Hidden Messages in Water,
has demonstrated that crystals formed in water will be visibly affected
by a wide variety of emotions.
Love entering the water will yield pure and beautiful crystals,
anger and hatred will damage the symmetry in the crystal’s structure
and thus give birth to an ugly crystal.
Remember that the human body is made up of at least 60% water.
Imagine how our emotions and those of others affect us.
3. REMEMBER A LOVE MEMORIES
“Giving love and kindness
not only makes others feel loved and cared for,
but it also helps to nurture love and peace within ourselves.
There are so many ways
we can consciously do to extend love and kindness.”
– Dalai Latma 14th
Love is the most effective weapon against evil.
Office workers often keep on their desks pictures of the people
they love and when feeling inhibited,
they turn to look at them;
That feeling of love will dilute the stress they are under.
The same is true on the mental level.
This clear mental picture will instantly give them a feeling of love.
Recall emotional mental images whenever
you feel negative to bring love to you.
if you’re having an argument with your partner,
have a mental image of your wedding day
and all the hope and joy that go with it
– you won’t be angry for long.
4. GIVE POSITIVE EFFECTS
Even if your immediate reaction is negative,
it is important to control yourself
and respond positively.
If you come home
and find that the kids have turned the wall into canvas
to show off their finger-painting skills,
you’ll probably be infuriated.
But laugh out loud.
Make yourself laugh and,
you will realize how sincere your laughter becomes.
Positive thinking will come and you will feel much better.
In the end,
you may even be proud of the budding Picasso talents in your family.
5. ACCEPT UNHAPPINESS
Remember that when we are born,
we have absolutely no possessions,
and then we will die alone
and we will not take anything with us.
So when misfortunes come our way,
If you can accept the worst
then everything turns out to be positive.
If you think about bad luck
that has happened to you before,
each one can get even worse.
When our minds think our misfortunes are the end of the world,
This emotion will make the pain we receive deeper.
90% of the pain we experience
is a psychological reaction to situations,
not because of the situation itself.
And even that remaining 10% is amplified by negative emotions.
6. ONE STEP WRONG
When you feel your life getting messy,
stop and take a step back.
Don’t let yourself get caught up in trouble,
let the problems sort themselves out.
Go on beach.
Relax with nature.
Breaking yourself out of your daily routine will help
you see the whole picture more clearly
and you will have the time
and space needed in your head
to wisely solve the problems that arise.
Take a step back instead of plunging your feet deeper into the mud.
Some seemingly insurmountable problems actually have simple solutions.
We need to step back
and have some alone time before we notice them.
Talent leaders and managers know
how to deal with times of crisis.
They pulled themselves out of those situations
and took on the role of a mentor.
During a football game,
the coach of each team always sits high in the stadium
so that he can see the whole game
that people sitting on the field cannot see.
Stepping back to get a clear view of the situation
is what we do when we practice present moment awareness,
even though we are then observing what is going on inside of us.
When you receive emotional pain
or your mind is confused,
step back and let yourself be an observer,
to see what the wound is like in your body
or your thoughts and emotions.
When we observe this process closely enough,
we can detach ourselves
from those emotions and see the truth very clearly.
I can solve any problem in the world.
Every day, spend alone time,
away from the computer,
television or any other means of entertainment.
Let your mind go blank.
The insight that comes from a clear
and peaceful mind is obviously much better
when they come from analytic thoughts.
As we said in Chapter 6,
the answers will suddenly appear the moment
we stop looking for them and start relaxing.
When our cognitive thinking takes a break,
the unconscious releases energy and finds a solution.
7. SEARCH MY RHYTHM
The only thing that never changes is change.
Everything is in its constant state of motion.
Once we understand this,
we can find our own rhythm and know
when to take action to solve the problem.
Everyone has a different rhythm
and we have to know when to stop
and when to act.
Good students know how inertia
and rhythm of their lives work when studying for exams.
They know when,
how they are most discerning
and when to take a break.
Find such rhythms in your life
and see how many more rewards you get from them.
When John F. Kennedy faced the possibility of nuclear war
during the Cuban missile crisis,
he spent a lot of time alone pondering ideas.
Many great leaders,
and Abraham Lincoln,
behave this way when faced
with great challenges.
When journalists seek their immediate answer
to a confusing situation
that has just arisen,
the answer may be “No comment.”
Although this may seem like an attempt to dodge the question,
it is a sign of wisdom.
An effective leader knows when to speak
and when to deliberate
because acting rashly can trigger negative emotions
in a bad situation that makes it worse.
We must also understand
that there are some problems
that cannot be solved,
or at least we are not capable of solving them.
They are inevitable and inevitable:
old age and death,
But if we face the inevitable
and accept this change spontaneously,
we won’t experience grief.
This workaround helps to avoid the internal effects of them.
“When I found myself in trouble,
Our Lady would come to me, and say words of wisdom:
‘Let it go.’” -The bealtes
Let it be
When it comes to routines,
don’t let yourself suffer,
from the despair of a sick beggar on the street.
We have no way of solving this problem
and let them go.
This is not to say
that we should not help these people.
Old age is an inevitable problem,
nor does it mean
that you should not take care of your health and appearance.
This means that you don’t let yourself be affected
so much that you worry too much
when your hair turns gray
or when you meet a homeless person on the street.
8. SHARE EMOTIONS
Open your heart and share truly great emotions;
However, you also have to be careful who you trust.
People who pour their hearts out must be really sympathetic
and understanding people
to be able to dissolve the negative in us.
We should all have someone in our lives
who can help us in times of need,
be it a mentor or a friend.
An experienced mentor can help us
build a clearer psychological picture of success,
and that’s an important factor in helping us feel more comfortable
and come up with effective solutions.
We also need partners,
both in life and at work,
who make an important contribution to our happiness.
They are the most trustworthy
and honest people we can find
and we must be able to express our feelings to them openly.
Their strengths will balance out our weaknesses.
Having such associates will bring victory.
Sometimes, crying helps.
It is a natural reflex
that can help us get through the most painful situations.
We are the only species that can shed tears in pain
(other animals’ tears do not correspond to emotions).
Nature must have known that human emotions
and desires are stronger than other creatures
and so has given us the ability
to cry as a way of venting strong emotions.
Without the ability to shed tears,
our species would surely go completely out of control.
9. HEALTH CARE
A good fitness helps us to limit negative emotions.
For the brain to function properly,
you must be in good health.
If you are sick and have negative emotions,
you are in a very dangerous situation.
Negativity will increase health problems
and bring more consequences than that.
Once that has happened,
it is very difficult to return to a positive,
To do this requires the ability
to perceive the present moment lucidly
and persistently to be able to grasp it
our thoughts and feelings
until the attachment to them is loosened.
Learning to be aware in this way is extremely important,
especially when health conditions are out of your control,
such as when you are nearing death.
For those who have not been able to temporarily quiet their thoughts
and free themselves from emotional entanglements through meditation
or other methods,
pursuing hobbies is an effective option.
Difficulties will fade,
clarity and clarity will appear
when we are as calm
and relaxed as when doing light
and harmless activities.
As noted in chapter 6,
many of the world’s great leaders,
including Winston Churchill,
have found solace in re-energized pastimes.
Even at work,
a prospective employer would love to have your preferences
included in the summary
because it proves you’re a diverse individual.
Companies always let overworked people take a vacation
so that they can regenerate their labor,
relax and come back to work with new energy.
A fluctuating mentality is like a dirty cup of water:
when left alone,
the dirt settles to the bottom
and the cup becomes clear again.
It’s not surprising that
so many brokers say
their most important deals are closed on the golf course.
Realizing the value in life and giving thanks for
what it has brought is a good way
to instill positive emotions in our minds.
People who thank God
before every meal or before going to bed every day
for the favors in their life
and do this with all sincerity will enjoy a lighter
and happier emotional state at the end day.
It comes from the expression of gratitude itself.
If we give thanks for our meal,
we will always have plenty of food.
Moreover, thanking our parents will bring an abundance
of love back to us
when we become parents.
If we are grateful to live in a rich and powerful country,
it will maintain a stable political regime
and economic growth.
Gratitude is so powerful that,
as Rhonda Byrne puts it in The Secret:
“If you can only do one thing with the knowledge of The Secret,
use gratitude until it becomes a way of your life”.
“When you thank God first for the choices you make in real life,
in the end, you will be grateful that it worked.
So gratitude is the most powerful expression to God;
an affirmation that even before you begged,
I answered.”- God
The words “sorry” and “thank you” are really helpful.
“Sorry” reduces other people’s negative feelings
and “thank you” gives them good feelings.
If you can say these words with all sincerity
– remember that words without emotion are meaningless
– you will be loved and get the best out of life.
Furthermore, the emotions
these words generate can bring about a dramatic improvement
in psychological endurance
as well as self-awareness.
Singer Joni Mitchell famously said,
“We don’t know what we have until we lose it”
and in fact, we rarely appreciate what we have
when we have it.
Breaking this habit brings tremendous power
when suddenly realizing the value of what makes up your life:
the people around you,
your possessions, your job,
– the list goes on forever long.
You will become a magnet
that attracts all good things into your life.
Cherish your family and loved ones.
Appreciate the doorman,
the waitress, and the security guard at the office,
and you too will receive a loving look,
and behavior from them.
Gratitude can also make you a better student.
Thank you Newton.
Thank you, Darwin.
Thank you Carl Jung.
By thanking these great minds,
you show appreciation for the knowledge
they bring to the world.
And if you cherish the person who helps you
to go further on your educational path,
automatically you will develop the ability
to absorb and learn that subject;
Your brain will build new neural pathways
to receive knowledge.
Even give thanks
for the inanimate things that make your everyday life more comfortable
like your appliances and machines,
your vehicle, even your home and workplace.
Appreciation brings a positive feeling,
it keeps you awake to reduce the irrational impulse
that makes you waste money on buying new
and more expensive things when the old things still work.
Gratitude can draw more power
from the universe than any other emotion.
The feelings of the person who carries a debt of gratitude
and the person who is always looking for an opportunity
for revenge are completely opposite.
A lot of movies, especially martial arts movies,
are driven by a lust for revenge;
The more bad things happen to the main character or person.
The more he loves,
the more fiercely he must take revenge.
It reflects an Asian culture
where children feel they owe their parents the gift
of birth and upbringing
– a debt they can never repay.
In these films, the debt of gratitude is the main factor
that pushes the main character to pursue revenge,
but in reality,
the act of gratitude and revenge can never happen at the same time.
Revenge is a negative emotion that lacks clarity
and prevents us from seeing our weaknesses.
Gratitude is a positive emotion
that always needs to be expressed in actions
and feelings full of kindness.
Anyone, or any nation, acting on the basis
of a desire for revenge will never find true happiness and peace.
The results of these emotions are immediately visible
in our body’s structural systems.
Hatred produces (adrenaline)(1) makes the heart beat faster,
increases blood pressure makes us uncomfortable and stressed.
Being grateful for the production
of endogenous endorphins produces a feeling
of happiness and serenity and a clear mind.
Science has found that the production of endorphins
or adrenaline in one’s body triggers a similar response
in those close to them.
Even more surprising is
that the same chemical produced
in the mother’s body can also occur in the child,
even when the child is at that time very far from the mother.
Similarities attract each other,
if we are grateful and helpful to those around us,
we will invite the same into our lives
and attract others to do the same.
The 11 ways to reduce negative emotions in this chapter are true.
A positive, healthy and vibrant spirit
that replaces negative emotions opens up a very rich new world,
filled with positive emotions and feelings.
Chapter 9: Top Secrets
11 WAYS TO END NEGATIVE THINGS
Emotions can be our greatest weakness
because they are hidden deep in the unconscious.
It is very important to turn negative emotions into positive
and helpful ones.
Eliminate negative emotions by using powerful tools such as:
always forgive, love,
recall loving memories,
always give a positive response,
take a step back,
find Find your rhythm,
share your feelings,
take care of your health,
have hobbies and be grateful.
1. Make sure you are kind to everyone and everything,
especially those you meet every day.
2. Make sure you always feel as grateful for the people,
and even objects that you find useful in your life,
and behave in accordance
with these feelings.
They will become habits that keep your emotions positive
and your actions good.
Learning to be content
with what you have will give you tremendous strength.
It is the shortcut to a rich and happy life.
Understand that happiness is just an emotion
– albeit a pleasant one
– so it will come and go just like any other emotion.
Use your insight to observe happiness
as they arise until you can detach yourself from them
and act as an observer.
Watch as these feelings fade
and realize that they are only temporary.
Witnessing feelings of sadness is much more painful
and it is much harder to break them,
but we also use the same amount of energy to do this.
Practice with joy first,
then it will be much easier to free yourself
from negative things or painful emotions.
When money realizes that it is in good hands,
it wants to stay and multiply in those hands. ― Idowu Koyenikan