10 Laws of Life
Rule 5: The golden star fruit tree
Every success that we receive in life,
more or less,
cannot be without the help of others
or some positive support from around.
However, very few people realize this.
People often assume that what they achieve today is the result
of their own efforts.
They consider themselves “the navel of the universe”
and live in isolation from others,
as a result of which successes
they have just achieved will be quickly eroded,
their creativity and ability to reap
Their success also fades away.
each of us is a small part of the big whole of society,
of the universe;
If we live separately,
we will be eliminated.
Therefore, cherish and be grateful for everyone,
and every situation that helps you to succeed.
Sending gratitude to life,
to those who constantly support you,
It will create more opportunities for your mind to develop
and achieve greater results.
Also from there, you will have more motivation
to create more value for those who have helped you.
Everyone has their own opinion on what success means.
Some people measure success
by what they have in life including material possessions,
even spiritual things like love,
experience as well as relationships by society.
But the problem is that many people get everything they want
and still don’t feel happy.
Usually, this happens when people allow themselves
to stop striving after something has been achieved (i.e. stop growing).
Until a certain point,
the joy and energy generated from the development process subsided;
this will create a deep pit that hinders continued ascent,
not to mention the pitfalls of success you will encounter.
For those who are determined
to keep growing throughout their lives,
success is a journey, not a destination.
That journey requires a continuous ascent
to which each factor contributes or promotes or inhibits.
Appreciate the support
Gratitude is an expression of the appreciation that each of us has
for everyone and the whole world
when receiving good things.
Our lives are made up of the interaction of many elements and components.
Look, everything in the environment
you live in is created by other people:
Tools you’re using,
the food you ate this morning,
the chair you’re sitting on or even a piece of paper,
There are countless human efforts,
talents and great contributions that have been invested
to create the environment
and your living situation today.
And, whether you believe in luck,
one thing is for sure:
no success can be achieved
without the right combination of factors and circumstances.
Jon Singer is very aware of the role of the people
who participated in the program “The Campaign for Rebecca”.
Whenever he mentioned his achievements,
he was always excited to talk about people who contributed
to that success.
He found that human beings,
no matter who they are,
also have a heart for others
and are ready to contribute,
each in a different way,
but all want to achieve good things.
From an early age,
we are taught to thank others
when we receive help,
or when we receive a gift.
what we need to be grateful for is much broader.
We can actively give thanks to life
by more appreciating the world we live in
– both the people we don’t know
and everything that creates environment in which we live
and thrive useful.
What we truly cherish will make us know how to show respect at all times.
Once we realize this value,
we will automatically treat the people
and things around us with a very natural respect.
People often want to work with people who respect them.
Resources are often drawn
to where they are most valued and cared for.
Life responds to our gratitude
by bringing a lot of life energy:
It took years for Tony and Mary Miller
to figure out how to deal
with the mass strike of workers in their company.
That is to increase their vacation time.
This seems unusual and is in stark contrast
to what other companies in the same field are doing.
However, Tony finally tried to use exception method
of giving employees up to two weeks of leave.
Immediately, things started to change.
The rate of workers leaving the job decreased significantly.
Employees begin to stay with the company longer,
they work more organized
and initially achieve better results in less time than before.
At this point,
Tony and Mary understood meaning of what they were doing.
They realize that
by respecting and responding to the legitimate needs of workers,
most of them immigrants,
they can make their businesses grow
and create a better working environment for their employees.
Previously, immigrants did not get the same number of vacation days
as local employees.
Language barriers and cultural differences
and lifestyles have also consumed all of their time in the process
of taking care of the basic needs to ensure life.
Giving employees extra days off is a way of empathizing
with their struggles and recognizing their contributions.
This move seems to send a message:
“We understand the challenges
and difficulties you are facing and
we truly appreciate your courage
in daring to start a new life in a new land by foreign country”.
This is an active and creative attitude of gratitude.
They do not say “Thank you for doing something for us”
but convey a broader meaning:
“We are grateful to you,
who want to become employees in our company,
and We appreciate your value.
To us, you are people of courage,
faith and hope for a better future.”
Tony and Mary started an organization for employees to learn English
and launched a program to help these workers buy homes.
These benefits for employees are unusual,
rare for other companies in the industry.
Although the Millers don’t guarantee that
what they do will produce the best results,
they are determined to do it.
The results answered,
their employees were really supportive,
many people introduced their relatives to work,
the turnover rate decreased clearly.
And the immigrant community spread rumors about
company treating employees as people with dreams and futures,
not as ordinary workers in society.
Tony and Mary’s business know-how became a conundrum for rival companies.
They wonder how the company consistently wins big contracts
while bidding lower than its competitors.
And their customers can’t understand
why Miller’s employees are more productive than any other service on the market.
The answer can be summed up in one word:
It is because they respect their employees that
they have established a tight
and rhythmic working process that no other company can compete with.
Not only did it change the lives of employees,
but this attitude of appreciation also changed Tony
and Mary’s understanding of the business approach
and broadened their strategic vision,
helping them see a better future much more successful
and bright future.
Pablo Neruda wrote a collection of poems called “Odes to Common Things”.
Poems written about salt shakers,
It have given readers a whole new sense of the meaning that
the most ordinary objects bring to our lives.
We will find this meaning if we will search;
and in the process of development,
the connection between us
and all the small things around will become tighter.
The same is true for person-to-person bonding.
Three important factors contribute to success
The more successful you are,
the more important it is to practice gratitude.
However, besides that,
you still have to pay attention to three other important factors
that significantly affect those successes.
which means you are part of a larger whole.
Second, devotion means that
you really want to contribute to the reality where
you see the value of the contributions made by other people and things.
Finally, humility means that
you are a special part of the world around you,
but not the most important part.
When you live together,
have devotion and humility,
the world will always create many new things for you to constantly learn
and receive knowledge from people,
things, and phenomena around you.
Gratitude, by its very nature,
will also work itself to eliminate the three mental attributes
that are most destructive to individual success in an interactive world:
isolation, ego and arrogance.
People who isolate themselves will also isolate themselves
from the important knowledge,
and abilities that others can bring to them.
And people with too big egos will constantly sabotage the goodwill
and support from others.
And for those who are too arrogant,
they will attract the antagonism
and hatred of those around them.
By cultivating gratitude,
we can avoid three dangers to sustainable growth
Write down the things you are grateful for
A simple but very effective way to focus on gratitude is
to write down five
or ten things you feel grateful for in life
or the people around you.
Actively and creatively write down everything that
you feel appreciated
– the good things,
in any way.
Here is a simple exercise for you to apply
and test the effects of gratitude.
Pick any person you know,
and ask yourself,
in what ways should I appreciate this person?
Write everything you can think of on paper.
Try to think of at least ten things.
Get creative if needed.
And watch how your attitude towards that person changes.
If you want to go further,
tell the person what you’re grateful for and see how they react.
No matter what position you are in,
you should always express your gratitude to everyone.
You can say thank you to everyone who attended
and listened to your presentation,
thanked everyone after a meeting where you were the director,
and thanked the audience for the enthusiastic support
of you as an actor,
thank customers if you are a sales person.
Your thank you will make people feel they are valued and useful.
Not only that,
it also has a two-way effect,
meaning that people will also appreciate contributions you give them.
This can boost your morale to work harder and give more.