Chapter 4: Life is not about luck, it’s about our choices
“Nothing comes naturally.
It all happens once you understand that
you have to make things work
the way you want them to.” – Ben Stein
The Right to Choose – The Magical Ability of Humans
There are many people who believe that
their present is already predetermined,
but that is not the case.
The most amazing human ability is
to have the freedom to choose,
to choose an attitude,
to choose a way of life,
a way of looking….
We are still used to blaming others.
There were times
when I also considered myself unlucky,
but then I realized that
no one can control the events that happen,
but each person always has the right
to choose how to deal with them.
People who have a mental breakdown or fail,
often give reasons such as:
too tired or depressed mood …
to justify quitting
through favorable opportunities in life.
But the truth is that
they do not know how to use their right to choose.
Therefore, they are just existing,
not really living.
It’s like you want to unlock the lock to get out of prison,
but you don’t know that the key is in yourself,
in your way of thinking.
Life is our choice,
not by chance.
The nature of the incident is not as important
as how we deal with it.
It is what we choose to think
and what we choose to do that is most important.
Life is a series of choices
One of the biggest human flaws is thinking that they have to work,
go to school,
go to the store,
and have to do a lot of other things.
In fact, no one has to do anything
– but with a positive outlook,
to do it.
What surprises me is that people often argue fiercely
when someone thinks we can choose what we do.
Recently, when I talked about “going to class every day”
with high school students,
one of the students said,
“There’s no other way, teacher!
I have to go to school.”
Then he kept bringing up all the bad things that
It would happen to him if he didn’t come to class like:
the school would send a notice home,
then his parents scolded him,
his friends looked down on him,
have to present themselves to the vice-principal,
get relegated, etc.
When the student had finished speaking, I said,
“So you chose to go to class over the consequences of not coming to class.
And you can still change your choice.
Think about it,
some of you didn’t go to school today.
Maybe they choose to sleep a little more or go shopping
instead of going to class this morning.
As for me,
I chose to go to class.
It all depends on how we look at the problem,
see that we are always given a choice instead of a must.
In any situation,
we all have the right to choose what to do and think.”
The most important choices
To be born and one day to die is not of our choice.
However, the very long interval between
those two events that we often call life presents us
with a multitude of choices.
There are choices that are taken for granted,
such as choosing friends,
choosing a way of life,
choosing a direction,
choosing a belief,
choosing a place to live…
But there are also choices that we don’t realize,
or don’t think much of them but are very important, that is:
* Choose a personality
– thereby forming the person we want to be:
We can choose between allowing ourselves to be shaped
by the thoughts,
desires of others,
of the environment around us
and becoming the person we want to be.
We can become better or worse than someone we are
– it’s all up to us.
* Choose for yourself the principles and standards of life:
We can be influenced by the media telling us what is good,
or we will decide for ourselves.
We can set our standards based on what others say
and do or on what we know well to be right and good.
* Choose how to treat others:
No one can force us to look down on one person or
that is entirely up to us.
We can become a proud person who doesn’t care about anyone,
or a kind, kind and respectful person.
* Choose how to adapt to adversity:
We can allow ourselves to be crushed,
drown in a state of torment,
regret or find the inner strength to overcome,
persevere Create things that life has not given you before.
* Choose how we will grow up:
We can view learning,
gaining more experience as an unpleasant task,
or see it as an opportunity
reat society to help you grow up.
We can choose to close our understandings
and thoughts in a tight space or always discover
and absorb new things.
* Choose what we will do, will accomplish:
We can let circumstances and others decide for us,
or we will find the true meaning of life
and live it to the fullest by myself
for that purpose.
* Choose beliefs in life:
We can ignore our mental state
or see it as one of the important factors
that shape our own lives.
* Choose a life attitude:
This is the most important choice because
it affects everything we do and affects our moods
and the mood of others.
We can’t choose the events that happen to us,
but we can absolutely choose how to deal with them:
having the courage to face it or be engulfed,
it all depends on the situation.